steps on how to free yourself from mantel bondage and live freely

by Raye willaims

1ST AGREEMENT: BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD “

The first agreement is the most important one and also the most difficult one to honor. It is so important that with just this first agreement you will be able to transcend to the level of existence I call heaven on earth. The first agreement is to be impeccable with your word. It sounds very simple, but it is very, very powerful.First, let’s look at how Ruiz defines the word impeccability: “Impeccability means ‘without sin.’ Impeccable comes from the Latin pecatus, which means ‘sin.’ The im in impeccable means ‘without,’ so impeccable means ‘without sin.’ Religions talk about sin and sinners, but let’s understand what it really means to sin. A sin is anything that you do which goes against yourself. Everything you feel or believe or say that goes against yourself is a sin. You go against yourself when you judge or blame yourself for anything. Being without sin is exactly the opposite. Being impeccable is not going against yourself. When you are impeccable, you take responsibility for your actions, but you do not judge or blame yourself.” Brilliant. So when we’re impeccable, we don’t use our word against ourselves indulging in guilt or shame. We also don’t use our word against others in blaming, criticizing or gossiping. We also honor our commitments and only make commitments we intend to follow through on.How’re you doing on those fronts? In The Diamond Cutter (see Notes), Geshe Michael Roach talks about the fact that in Tibet they don’t even have a word for “guilt.” As he says: “There’s no word in Tibetan for ‘guilty.’ The closest thing is ‘intelligent regret that decides to do things differently.’” Geshe Roach also describes blame/criticism/complaining/etc. as “useless talk.” It depletes us of energy and wires our brains in ways we don’t wanna be wired. So, uh, let’s get impeccable with our word and stop all blame and criticism—of ourselves and others; and, while we’re at it, let’s get rid of all the complaining and gossip as well! 🙂 Now, let’s address being impeccable with our word as it relates to commitments. Do you honor your commitments? When you say you’re going to do something, do you *really* intend to follow through and then DO you? Or, do you kinda say “Yes” to every request because you think you need to and you figure you can always flake later? We’ve all said “Yes” too often when a polite “No” would’ve been more appropriate but let’s practice honoring our word and the commitments we make, shall we?! (While we’re on the subject of sin, did you know that, according to Wikipedia: “in the biblical Hebrew, the generic word for sin is het. It means to err, to miss the mark. It does not mean to do evil.” Paulo Coelho (see Notes) talks about the fact that to sin, from this perspective, is kinda like an archer missing the bulls-eye. Cool, eh. i shall take walk down with the other agreement as we proceed.

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